Moms

You’re a mom...a biological mom, step-mom, adopted mom, foster mom, or guardian. You have taken on, in my opinion, one of the most important jobs a person can have. I understand mothering’s joys and challenges. I’ve been there.

You may want to raise kids who
  • feel good about themselves and are able to make and keep friends
  • have dreams for their future and are eager to pursue them 
  • are committed to their values and beliefs, even in the face of social pressures  
  • are compassionate, fair, and honest
  • are critical thinkers and knowledge seekers 
If you are reading this, you most likely want the best for your kids.  You might be wondering why mothering is so challenging, time-consuming, and not exactly what you imagined it would be!

First, there are a lot of external pressures:
  • lots of homework; testing and placement exams; special class projects
  • finding family time amidst all the chaos
  • the increasing costs of gas, school supplies, uniforms, fees, dues, etc.
  • mandatory school fundraisers, teacher conferences, school meetings
  • sports, band, drama, and other extra curricular activities that take your time and energy

Next, there are a lot of internal pressures:
  • saying ‘yes’ or ‘no’ to your child and feeling guilty about it
  • losing your temper and regretting it
  • feeling like you have to keep up with the neighbors or other mothers
  • resenting your child for needing so much of your time
  • overindulging, or withholding, as a result of your own childhood experiences

Finally, there may be unresolved difficulties in the making of your family:
  • difficulty conceiving or a history of miscarriages; infertility
  • a long awaited for adoption, or failed adoptions
  • difficulty attaching/bonding with one or more of your children
  • an unplanned pregnancy; guilt about keeping or terminating a pregnancy
  • one partner wanted kids, and the other didn’t…or wasn’t sure

Any of these factors may have impacted how you’ve mothered your kids.  As a result, you may need help learning:
  • age appropriate communication (especially with kids of various ages and maturity levels)
  • the difference between modeling good behaviors versus lecturing and nagging
  • why spanking and hitting are ineffective; how to make time-outs work
  • 10 (or more) things to do instead of yelling or spanking
  • how to build your child’s self-esteem
  • the TLC’s of mothering (Teaching, Listening, and Caring)

If you are overworked, overwhelmed, or just need a boost in parenting your children, it’s not too late to be the mother your children need.

My fee is $125 per 50-minute session, payable by cash, check or credit card.  I am currently offering a reduced fee to individuals or couples who are motivated to get help and make changes, but have financial concerns. If finances are an issue for you, please let me know, and we’ll try to find a mutually-agreeable rate.

If you want help but are unsure what therapy entails, or have any other questions, don't hesitate to call. Or, if you are ready to get started and would like to schedule an appointment, you can reach me at (909) 260-2736 or by email. I look forward to hearing from you!